The Death Defying Double Somersault of Love



The Spectre of Cat-Calling

soycrates:

Men do not see catcalling because catcalling happens less when men are in the presence of their female friends. I live in a particularly busy part of town and when I go out for a 20 minute walk on my own, I get catcalled at least 4-7 times. But when I go out for the same walk with my boyfriend, I get catcalled 0 times, without fail. I’m not super attractive, I’m just lumpy person shaped, and that’s enough for a lot of catcallers. It doesn’t have to be with my boyfriend either. It can be when I’m walking with a guy friend, not holding their hand. It can be attractive guys, non-attractive guys. Old guys. Young guys. When there’s a guy beside me, it’s like the world goes silent. The nature of catcalling also changes throughout the day: in the afternoon period, catcalling might be unwelcome, but it just grazes the border between “compliment” and “sex offender”. At night, when fewer people are around to hear the comment, catcalling gets persistent, loud, and downright scary. It’s no longer an awkward grin paired with “You. Beautiful!” but a deep-toned shout asking how much money can they deposit into you until sex falls out, or how a pretty girl like you should get trapped in their car and wind up in a ditch by the side of the road come morning. If you stayed out all day, it would sort of be like watching American Psycho: charming… okay… not bad… and then suddenly, AXE MURDERER.

Men who don’t condone catcalling don’t see their friends catcall because catcalling men are either walking (or driving) alone, or in a group where everyone agrees on the same level of “social etiquette”. Or lack thereof. Guys, you don’t see it because it’s less likely to happen around you, or where you choose to be. Men get embarrassed or afraid to catcall when they think there will be a man around to judge them for it, but feel much less embarrassment or fear projecting it onto a woman.

And this makes it very, very hard to explain to male friends how pervasive and harmful catcalling really is. Because it’s like being that one person in a horror movie who has already seen the monster, and now you’re trying to convince all of the other dumb campers that yeah, murder ghosts / vampires / zombie Al Pacino with access to biogenic weaponry exists before they all get themselves killed in the lake or while having sex. The upside for dudes out there is that ignoring this monster has almost no negative consequences for you, because it primarily targets women. 

And just like the protagonist in aforementioned horror movies, I and many other women are begging you to finally acknowledge that the monster exists before it kills us, either slowly or all at once - even though our social conventions are set in such a way that you will almost never be confronted with it yourself.

thedarlingchild:

this is what the set of the original black & white addams family television show set looked like in color.

thedarlingchild:

this is what the set of the original black & white addams family television show set looked like in color.

(Source: cultofweird)

decadent-romanticism asks: would you recommend Laurie Penny's new book to someone that has EXTREMELY limited funds but a keen interest? I guess I was wondering if it's kind of groundbreaking enough to move to the top of my to-buy list when there's so much other feminist stuff I need to read! Ah, why is it so expensive to learn about things? Thanks.

Probably the most cutting edge stuff is in the chapter Cybersexism, which is probably an extended version of this ebook //www.amazon.co.uk/Cybersexism-Sex-Gender-Power-Internet-ebook/dp/B00EO24J3O which is 90p on amazon, the rest isn’t incredibly revelatory, and of course if you wait a few months it should be about £5 second hand (I got mine from a big library, but libraries are always inconsistent with what they have). 

I’ve finished Laurie Penny’s new book Unspeakable Things in about a day, and it is very good. It is another book by a white, middle class feminist and she opens it with an account of her eating disorder, but the way it brings together misogyny and class is very good. Some of the stuff about eating disorders being about “work to rule” kyriarchy compliance, and about how even non-patriarchal feminine LGBT+ women and girls can suffer from eating disorders in exactly the same way that patriarchal compliant women do, they are not some ascetic martyr and the “other girls” haven’t read too many fashion magazines. They are all in the some societal complex. And some of the things about love as women’s work, their “second shift”.  It’s just very good, though she has a tendency to call all what I presume she means LGBTQIA+ (non-cis and straight) people queer. 

zooophagous:

naturepunk:

These two pups are named Shentea and Diamond. They are in desperate need of a foster home, and if none can be found before the end of the week, they will likely face euthanasia. 
Why? 
Because their previous owner claimed that they were wolfdogs. They are not. They are likley German shepherd/husky mixes, and now their lives are on the line because of misrepresentation. 
I’ve offered to foster these two if no other option can be found, but if you or anyone you know may be able to lend a hand, PLEASE contact me ASAP. They currently in Klamath Falls, Oregon, but I can help with transportation if need-be. 

Case in point: why it’s a big stupid idea to claim your dog is a wolfdog when it isn’t one.

zooophagous:

naturepunk:

These two pups are named Shentea and Diamond. They are in desperate need of a foster home, and if none can be found before the end of the week, they will likely face euthanasia.

Why?

Because their previous owner claimed that they were wolfdogs. They are not. They are likley German shepherd/husky mixes, and now their lives are on the line because of misrepresentation.

I’ve offered to foster these two if no other option can be found, but if you or anyone you know may be able to lend a hand, PLEASE contact me ASAP. They currently in Klamath Falls, Oregon, but I can help with transportation if need-be.

Case in point: why it’s a big stupid idea to claim your dog is a wolfdog when it isn’t one.

artspotting:


Drawings of sets of fossil footprints by an unidentified artist. These are the original drawings for Plate XII published in Edward Hitchcock’s “Supplement to the Ichnology of New England.”via Amherst College

artspotting:

Drawings of sets of fossil footprints by an unidentified artist. These are the original drawings for Plate XII published in Edward Hitchcock’s “Supplement to the Ichnology of New England.”via Amherst College

ibt-w:

And why haven’t men organised to wear feminine clothing? Could it be because feminine clothing is made to be restrictive, objectifying and aesthetically pleasing without practicality? Women have fought to wear men’s clothing because men’s clothing is suitable for human beings. Women’s clothing is suitable for subordinate objects. That is, after all, the purpose of ‘gendered’ clothing — to differentiate between the sexes by designating women as objects (whose purpose is to please men visually) without the interests or abilities to necessitate practical clothing.

Society has changed a lot since de Beauvoir wrote The Second Sex, but there are still conventions all around us that enforce a female’s belief in her immanence, her permanent and unchanging identity as an object. Think, for example, of the many mainstream women’s magazines that ask women what their “true” color is, or to find out what kind of hairstyle or perfume fits who she really “is”—these are all subtle methods of telling a woman that she has a constant, “true,” unchanging self to uncover. This is quite different from the typical men’s magazine, where the common articles are about objects (cars, electronics, hot women) for the man to act with/upon. Women are told to be, not encouraged to do or make.
This is a picture of me being a little nerd with an Irish Elk in the National Museum of Scotland. 

This is a picture of me being a little nerd with an Irish Elk in the National Museum of Scotland. 

adviceforvegans:

Arturo lives in the blistering sun of Argentina. A naturally Arctic animal spends his days living in 140 degrees Fahrenheit (60 degrees Celsius) of nothing but heat. 

If this upsets you as much as it upsets me, please consider signing the following petitions:

Please allow Arturo to have a better life in the Assiniboine Park Zoo in Canada

Quickly issue a special import permit to Canada for Arturo the Polar bear.

Free Arturo, Argentina’s only polar bear, from living hell!!!

FREE ARTURO: The Polar Bear In Despair

If you know of any more petitions I can add, please let me know and I’ll add them right away. 

Let’s rescue this poor little guy together!